The Indigo Adults

It is hard enough to walk in this world as an indigo adult and an empath and, without ever touching anyone, pick up on so much invisible stuff that is going on.

But then you bring sex into the picture and it’s a whole new mastery.

You, the indigo adult/psychic mind/empath is literally, physically merging with another individual. And with that physical merging automatically comes an energetic merging.

I take on the traits of my lover… both good and bad.

I believe most empaths do… which a good reason to pick you lovers carefully.

I really have no solution to prevent this from happening. And with me, even when I am being very diligent about cleaning my energy field, I still am not usually able to clear my lover’s energy away. It just doesn’t happen.

Maybe it’s different for male indigo adults, because they are not literally, bringing someone’s physical being into their body (unless they are gay) and I feel that that makes female indigo adults and empaths more susceptible to carrying their lover’s energy.

The unfortunate thing for me has been that because I am feeling energy that is not mine in my body that I am unable to clear, it makes long term romantic/sexual relationships sometimes uncomfortable.

This is because for long stretches of time I will see a trait that I know is not mine that I am picking up from my lover, and I can’t shake it.

For example, let’s say that I’m dating/having sex with someone that doesn’t like biking. After a while, I may start to find biking distasteful, even though I truly love biking (which I do). After a few months I will notice that I am not biking and yet also sense a part of me that is longing to go biking.

Because biking is at my core (along with the attributes that are at my core self that have shifted since the beginning of the relationship) I will eventually find that all of those traits that are mine will overpower the traits I’m picking up from my mate.

That is usually when I end up breaking up with my mate.

This can happen in non-sexual relationships, especially familial relationships, but it is even more powerful with a lover.

The most difficult part to deal with is the psychic mind part of myself in sexual relationships. If the person I am dating/making love to is not psychic, it closes me up, which is uncomfortable to me. Short term, it’s fine. I usually just get head aches with lovers that are psychically closed. But long term, it feels like something is missing from my life and that I’m lacking awareness.

One interesting thing in the case of me (an indigo empath and psychic) dating a muggle is that I usually end up evoking a psychic opening in the muggle. Petunias love this, because they want to learn more about the invisible world. So, for example, my last boyfriend, who was a muggle/Petunia, loved this benefit of dating/fucking me.

The other relationship type is when I am with another indigo adult/intuitive/emapth/psychic mind. That can get messy because usually our vibrations are so close that we don’t know who’s stuff belongs to who.

So if my lover, who is a psychic empath, is having a bad day and is pissy about it, I could be having the greatest time on a beach in Hawaii and still feel pissy and not know why.

It’s very annoying, unless you are dating an indigo who is really good at refocusing positively.

And in both cases, if the indigo adult/empath’s lover is partaking in substances, the indigo adult/empath will most likely be affected by it.

So this has lead me to wonder if I will ever end up getting married.

Sexual merging is not something I have partaken in a lot. And if I do, it’s with someone who has habits and thought patterns that I can live with, and with the positive habits/thoughts, enjoy.

But I guess that’s what makes for a good relationship, huh?

I am just looking at it through an energetic lens.

Oh, and I almost forgot to mention…

I am connected to all of my lovers in the past and I think this is true for everyone. Not just indigo adults/empaths.

We (indigo adults/empaths) are just able to tune into it better. So I can feel when my boyfriend from 8 years ago is thinking about me. Or when I think about him, I can connect with how he is feeling at the moment, even if I have both of us in a bubble.

Something to keep in mind if you choose a lover who can get obsessive. I have one ex that always fantasizes about me (and not in an energetically gentle way… as I taught in my last post) and it’s very annoying.

Oh, but here’s the super-cool upside about being an empathic indigo adult… you intuitively know where/how to touch your lover. Because you can feel it and sense it.

And if you are with another indigo adult or emapth (or start psychically opening a muggle) you will get to enjoy the same benefit.

To put it bluntly, it makes sex really, really great.

So choose your lovers wisely, indigo adults, because you will get much closer to them than just physically.

Peace,

Indigo Leslie

Any other indigos/empaths/psychic minds have experiences like the ones I’m describing here? Please leave your experiences and thoughts below.

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I keep saying on this blog that I am going to write about this and I never do.

It’s a touchy subject. I can feel my own resistance.

I will start by saying that the spirit that taught me this said that I was at a certain level and that many would not understand this information.

So if you don’t get this post, it wasn’t meant for you. Read other posts.

We indigo adults are powerful thinkers. I know that even the least psychic muggles can feel my thoughts. I notice it in their behavior.

Which means that we have to be extra careful with how we think about others.

When it comes to sexual fantasizing, it is important to go though a few, very specific steps, before engaging in the fantasy, if the fantasy involves another physical being.

This is because we do not want to control them or their thoughts, but it can often happen accidentally that way if we do not go though particular protocol before engaging in the fantasy.

The other thing that can happen is they will feel the fantasy in their body, which feels like a violation, and it is in some regards.

When people fantasize about me but do not go though these steps, I can literally feel the penetration of their body into mine energetically. I can feel the heaviness of someone on top of me. I can feel their thought of their hands on me.

Start with a bubble around yourself. If you don’t know how to do this, refer to my energy cleansing meditation.

Next, bubble the other person. Mentally say this to them…

“I do not expect anything from you. I am about to appreciate your sexual energy. You give so much just by walking in this world… You do not need to give anymore. Be yourself and know that you give great pleasure to others just by being you. I am not attached to any of the things i am thinking coming to fruition. I am fulfilled completely in the here and now and you are helping simply by you being you.”

I like to add, “If it comes into fruition… Beauteous. If not, that is ok because I am completely fulfilled in the here and now.”

I add the end when I would be ok with what I am fantasizing coming to fruition into the physical, but, again, I’m not attached to it because the fantasy is plenty to fulfill me.

Remember to bubble/shield the individual you are thinking about. That allows them to continue to be who they are without feeling or being influenced strongly by your thoughts.

Then do your fantasizing. Enjoy and be fulfilled!

Then, again… do the same meditation you started with. As mentioned above, let the other individual know that they have given you great pleasure by simply walking on this earth and being who they are…

Then send away their energy with gratitude and love.

And you, and the object of your fantasy, should be good to go.

And you have just ethically and cleanly (energetically) fantasized about someone else… safely and sexually.

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I learn fast.

Really fast.

Absurdly fast.

And people wonder how I do it.

It’s an Empath secret, actually.

We indigo adults might have to deal with being Emapths… Not being able to be around certain people or watch particular movies… And that can get a bit annoying…

But here’s a really cool thing about being an emapth. We can know how to do stuff just by sitting next to the person who knows how to do stuff.

Let me clarify…

I was in massage school and I was having difficulty with a particular stroke.

The instructor, who had been doing massage for over 20 years and was an AMAZING healer, came over and started to work on the person whom I had been working on.

Together we started to work together, each one of us had one of the the “clients’” feet. My instructor sat next to me, looked me in the eye and our shoulders brushed.

Within seconds I got it. I got mastery with the stroke I had been struggling with. I was doing it at the level of a master. It was weird. I knew I was not that skilled yet. But I was? I could feel it in my hands and in my body.

What had happened was that there was a transference of energy between me and the teacher/expert and by virtue of standing next to this expert, I was able to also become an expert in her line of expertise.

You… the empath… don’t take anything away from the expert’s skill or ability, but it is a great way for you to learn new stuff.

So here’s how you do it.

You find the most knowledgeable person you can find regarding what you want to learn. You sit with them. You look them in the eye. If possible you touch them. You have them near you when you do what you want to learn a few time and get the learning into your own body.

It only takes me a few times doing something to get it wired into my body (like in the Matrix… when they download particular programs) and then I can do it on my own with great expertise.

One caveat… If you don’t think in a similar way to the person/expert you are with, it might be more difficult to empathically pick up the information.

This is happening to me now. I am in this television studio and having a bit of difficulty learning a particular position because I don’t match the thinking style of the person teaching me.

When the other person training me sits with me, I get it immediately. Unfortunately, he’s not around enough for me to get the position mastered in my own body and “downloaded” fully into my own mind to be a master myself.

Is this helpful to any indigo adults out there? How have you learned to make Empathy an advantage?

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Indigo adults… I am asking this with hesitation but curiosity…

If one of your abilities is connecting with spirits that have crossed over… Do you ever connect with spirits that were “famous” when they walked in physical body?

This is a squirrily topic for me because this is what got me all jacked up when I was in high school.

It was difficult to deny that I was not experiencing SOMETHING… A spirit… A rock star… Came in dreams and in my waking hours.

I could hear him audibly and feel his touch. Could not see him, but knew where his presence was focusing itself.

And telling this to my “family counselor” (though none of the other family members ever showed up) as a teenager almost got me a one way ticket to Bergen Pines, the local mental institution.

So I learned not to talk about him. I told him to go away. He did but he was sad because he wanted to help me with my music writing.

I was sad too, because at that time in my life he was one of the only happy things in my life and one of the only beings that understood me.

But I still told him to go. He did, but never completely. He always came back to check in on me.

Flash forward 10 years and he’s still around me. We still talk. We still hang out. We still write songs.

He’s not a constant in my life as he was in high school. He’s more of a friend that visits once in a while.

But, to be honest, my own cynicism makes me think, “It cannot really be him. Why would he come to me?”

My answer to my inner critic is that it feels “different” when he’s around. I wish I could be more specific, but I cannot.

And lately, other spirits… famous spirits come and also the not so famous… and have been attempting to get my attention and time.

With the famous spirits, I perceive their trying to get to me by the number of times something comes up regarding them in my day to day life.

If it is an distinctive increase from my usual day to day life, and it comes with that “feeling” that I can’t describe, then I start to think it’s one of those spirits. When I come across a “something” that makes me think of them, it feels as though I’m hitting a brick wall mentally. There is very little I can think about but them for that moment. It feels as though something is say very loudly, “HEY, LOOK HERE! IT’S A PICTURE OF ME. LET’S CONNECT. ARE YOU GETTING A CLUE YET?”

It’s usually something very mundane like a album cover or picture of the individual that I cannot pull my eyes away from.

I think that the mind is an amazing thing, and I am aware that a lot of the manifestation process is about first my mind fixating on something and then my mind pulling it out in the environment and noticing THAT SPECIFIC DETAIL within the millions and millions of things that are in my environment to notice every day.

So am I just “noticing” (or programming my mind to notice) the images of dead celebrities because I’m focusing on it?

Maybe…

But it’s weird, because someone like Elvis (which has been coming in to my sphere the last few days) will start without any reason or deliberate manifesting on my part.

And that’s what I find weird.

I had a friend, an indigo adult and a channel, who used to tell me she’d connect with celebrities on the other side. They’d come up and ask her to channel them so that they could do things that one can only do in physical body, like have a smoke or a drink, or so that they could help her be famous and live in her body, doing what they did when they walked in physical body.

She obviously said no. She’s not going to just let someone else take over in a permanent way (which is what I think happens to some celebrities like Lindsay Lohan or Anna Nicole Smith, who were both obsessed with Marilyn Monroe and both have really jacked up drug addictions just like the dead star.)

But she was really specific about how they approached her and what they proposed.

Additionally, I recently did a story about the ghosts of Flagstaff for my school TV News show. Even my cynic had to stop talking as I reviewed some of the footage that had SOMETHING ghostly in the shot. And it was hard to notice that all of the equipment in the TV studio totally malfunctioned the week I did these reports.

So… the question of the day is…

Is it my mind creating all of this supposed celebrity contact…

… Or are these spirits really there?

I will say that when the rock star that has been in my life since I was 16 comes to visit me, I write music that is way beyond my very basic knowledge of music.

But if you asked me what his favorite color was, I would not be able to answer that.

Indigo adults, empaths, channels and other psychic minds… I would love to hear your thoughts on this very confusing topic.

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I have certain annual rituals that I think transcend religious belief.

Yes, I’m Pagan.

And yes, many of these rituals come from Pagan tradition, but there are many I believe would serve many people, especially indigo adults, regardless of religious belief.

I’m writing about this on this blog because indigo adults are often more sensitive to the non-physical presences around us, and for those that aren’t but are just seeking comfort regarding those that have crossed over, Silent Supper is a beautiful and loving experience.

I think it is important to honor those who have crossed over all year round, but around this time (Halloween, also called Samhain) it is said that the veil between the world of the physical and non-physical is a little bit thinner, and therefore, communication is easier.

Pagan’s have a ritual called Silent Supper for this time of year.

Silent Supper is essentially a ritual to honor those that have passed over. I have always done it alone, mainly because I have always been a solitary witch, but traditionally this is a gathering for a meal (supper). Each guest has place setting for him or herself and one to honor an individual that has crossed over.

Typically a guest brings a photo of the person, and that setting is lit with a candle to signify the spirit’s presence.

I have always invited all of my relatives that have crossed over, and so though I’m alone, it is a pretty crowded table!

I’m not going to get into the nitty gritty of the Silent Supper here. There are great websites that describe the experience in detail:

http://www.sunfell.com/silent.htm
http://www.ladyyemaya.com/my_weblog/2008/10/the-samhain-dum.html
http://moonandshadow.wordpress.com/2009/10/04/samhain-day-of-the-dead/

The last few years, I have been living with others and so I have not held a Silent Supper, but in years past, I have thoroughly enjoyed the ritual.

Whether or not they REALLY show up is regardless.

And I am not really sure if it is my own loving remembrance that makes the supper feel so loving that it brings me to tears every year (even though when I begin, it never feels like I’m in a particularly emotional mood), or that I am actually feeling their presence and loving gratitude of my non-physical family, appreciating that I’m celebrating their lives (rather than being sad that they’re not in the physical anymore).

Either way, it is always a happy event for me. And one that I highly encourage everyone try, at least once.

For indigo adults senstive to energy, you very well might feel other presences, and if you have an experience, please leave your comments and stories below, I would love to hear them.

For non-indigos or those not particularly psychically inclined, I would still like to hear your experiences if you chose to try this. It think it is extremely comforting to do this ritual for oneself, even if nothing is felt from the other side.

So this year, I’m living with 3 other college students… (did I mention I moved? YAY! I told you my good health would just catapult me out of my last living situation!) =-D

I’m in a new place with new people, but even if I weren’t I would not do this ritual if I thought I would be disturbed, so I have chosen not to do Silent Supper this year.

But what’s interesting is I’m home and I’m exuberant because I’m watching a Yankee game and I’m thinking about my Dad, who crossed over 10 years ago today.

My intuition tells me that he’s here with me. I’m getting this weird joyfulness from outside me in relation to the game.

I rarely watch baseball anymore (since my dad crossed) and even when I do, I’m not this giddy. Actually, I’m sort of giddy in a weepy way.

And that is the exact feeling I get from the Silent Supper.

So my point is that I fell like my Dad’s hanging out, despite my cancellation of The Supper this year.

And my other point is that this is a good time to honor those that have passed on.

Whether you are an indigo adult or not, this is a good time to honor the dead. Indigo adults might have already gotten a sense that it is a good time, even without knowing about Samhain, Silent Supper, or Day of the Dead.

But whether you chose to do a formal Silent Supper, or just take a moment to do something that honors your ancestors (for me and my dad, it’s the Yankee game), I wish you a happy times and great love.

Peace,

Indigo Leslie

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Here is the stone that I have totally fallen in love with, and believe other indigo adults will to (if you haven’t already)…

Black Tourmaline!

This is going to be a short post because I will have plenty of links at the end of this post where you can go find some wonderful additional information.

But let me just tell you, I started wearing this stone about 2 weeks ago during a particularly trying time.

Since then, I have noticed that a lot less has been sticking to me energetically.

Seriously, it is so cool! I feel like I’m untouchable psychically (whether or not that’s true is another story, but I feel a lot better) by those that like to hook in (like my FORMER housemate, who did unhook a few days after I started to wear black tourmaline and wasn’t able to rehook since!)

And the coolest part has been that I have become keenly aware of those that do not have my best intentions in their heart. Or who are threatened by my progress toward my joy.

What black tourmaline typically does is neutralize that energy and then change it into empowering positive energy for the wearer.

It’s sooooo cool!

It’s also helpful to leave around the house to protect the space.

Two side notes for black tourmaline…

• You have to cleanse black tourmaline… so either run it under cold water, hold it in the smoke from white sage, or do as I do, and leave it next to selenite which cleanses crystals that are nearby.
• When black tourmaline is heated a tourmaline crystal develops opposing electrical charges at opposite ends. I have just noticed that electrical equipment has gone a bit wacky these last couple weeks and I’m wondering if it’s from being in close proximity to the black tourmaline. So you might want to treat black tourmaline like a magnet, and keep it away from items you would protect from magnets.
• For some reason, I was very resistant to the suggestion that I needed this crystal. There is a gem shop that I go to and I trust their opinion so much that I will let their instinct override my own (which rarely ever happens normally), and in this case it was VERY, VERY good that I took the suggestion. So if you feel yourself strongly resisting the black tourmaline, you might actually be greatly helped by it.
• I felt that the first week I wore black tourmaline was a bit of a challenge because as I felt heavier energies pull out of me, I became a bit uncomfortable. Sometimes when things dislodge, it feels like a physical pulling. Other times, I find that something will unhook as I briefly take on/embody (and release) the energy that is/was hooking. It can lead to very erratic behavior. So just wanted to give you a heads up on that, incase you DON’T feel good or feel weird or a little unstable the first week you use black tourmaline.

Here are some links for more information:





http://www.rainbowcrystal.com/crystal/gems/tourm.html


http://therapeuticreiki.com/blog/black-tourmaline/

http://www.controverscial.com/Black%20Tourmaline.htm

And this is the best price I’ve found online for the big pieces:

http://www.bestcrystals.com/tourmaline2.html

Finally, I gifted this stone with a clear crystal quartz (it was a pendant that combined the two) and the indigo adult said that not only did she feel increasingly better after a week, she was able to get off anti-depressants and she felt “her life really turned around once she started wearing the pendant.”

I was so happy for her and I still am!

Any indigo adults have any experiences with black tourmaline? Would love to hear from you! Please leave comments below…

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This is Part 6 of a 6 part series on Indigo Adults and substances.

Today we well be covering Hallucinogens…

First of all, I want to start by saying that all that I am about to say it though personal experience. There are lots of scientific experiments that cover the physical effects of nicotine, but I think you’d be hard pressed to find articles that cover the energetic effects.

This is probably going to be one of my shortest posts because of my lack of experience with the drug.

I have only done this twice and I feel like it blew me open psychically on a lot of different levels.

That is why there are so many spiritual ceremonies that revolve around the use of hallucinogens… They have the capacity to draw the user very consciously into other worlds.

But for indigo adults, I feel that like pot, hallucinogens are almost a wasted endeavor because we are already so open as it is.

The one exception would be if the hallucinogen was used in a sacred ceremony, with a guide that knows what s/he is doing… like the shamans that guide individuals through Iowaska experiences or Peyote journeys.

And still, I feel that that is treading on very shaky territory for an open indigo adult. The impact of these experiences do not go away once the high is over and it can be very jarring to ones life to be opened up before s/he is ready.

In my opinion, it is better to let your own opening take place in a natural way, rather than to force it with a hallucinogen.

What about muggles?

Well… because this type of drug opens the third eye and the crown, it might be useful for muggles to experience that. I think they really get a sense that they are part of and exist in all that is, and for that reason, moderate use of hallucinogens might be helpful.

But most of the time, this drug is not used in a constructive, spiritual way, and so the benefit that would come out of the experience is not really tapped.

It just ends up being a “really trippy” experience.

An unfortunate missed opportunity in my opinion.

Then again, you do get people like John Lennon, who probably transcended a lot because of his use of hallucinogens and marijuana… an probably in a “party like a rock star” atmosphere. So who can say…?

BOTTOM LINE:

Indigo adults… my opinion is that it’s a bad idea. You’re already really open and we already trancent worlds in a lot of different ways… We don’t need hallucinogens to have that experience.

Muggles… Don’t know. Jury is still out on that one.

(This is the final post in the series, mainly because I don’t have any personal experience with anything else. I know there are a lot more substances out there, but I just don’t feel that I am the right person to write about them from an energetic point of view because I have – happily – not had any contact with other substances.)

So indigo adults… Have any words of wisdom you care to leave hear? I would love to hear your opinions/thoughts/experiences on this matter.

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