For example, I don’t like taking “drugs” even as benign as acetaminophen, but I will occasionally take a Tylenol if I have a strong headache that I can’t shake.

I will even say that the headache is most likely energetic and if I sat down and took the time to sort it out in an energetic way, which often works for me, I could get rid of it without using a “drug” to “avoid” the pain of the headache, but at that moment, it is not practical or effective enough or I am, energetically , not ready to let go of the headache.

Thank you for your comments.

~ Peace ~

Indigo Leslie

LOVE TO ALL,
NICHOLAS FLAMEL

Thanks. I will be checking back often =)

I think I have written about making a List of Positive Aspects (an Abraham-Hicks exercise I find very effective) in some of my posts, but I find that this works sooooo well with relationships, because on a certain level people to feel and hear the list you are making and will subconsciously react to that. The key to the list is to only list aspects that you believe are true (like, don’t say a person is punctual if they are actually always late).

So when you have moments of insecurity or feel that you are being a drain to him, first do the bubble exercise I wrote about… or at the very least, imagine a bubble around him and a bubble around you.

The bubble represents the idea that you want them to be them and it’s ok that they are being what they are being, all the time. You might not like it, but you honor that they are expressing what they need to express.

Additionally, sometimes indigo adults and emapths pick up on impressions of the thoughts of other people… They act or emote in the way others expect them to, rather than what they are actually feeling and wanting to be.

So the bubbling and the exercise should take care of a lot of what you mentioned in your email.

And in the moments that he is “going through the motions”, which I am presuming to mean doing things that aren’t exactly in line with his passion (like a job that he likes but isn’t always fun) I would say that if the bubbling doesn’t work for both of you, it should at least work for you. And once you have become comfortable with these exercises, you can show him and he can clear himself, which isn’t really your responsibility anyway, though on the rare occasion I will go in to a family members field (after asking permission psychically) and clear some energetic ickyness that is pulling the entire family group down that doesn’t belong to them.

I will give a couple of examples.

My last boyfriend liked his job but it was very tiresome with a lot of minute calculations. He earned a lot of money for what he did and liked the people he worked with and enjoyed his time there for the most part, but he knew that the collective of the company was a bit of a heavier vibration (it was a major oil company) and I could feel that collective every time he went to work, by virtue of being so connected to him in our relationship.

The way I dealt with it was to do the Bubble Exercise, and then to find a collective (a group of people) that matched my vibration better and felt really good to me. That way, when he was at work, I could connect with the collective I was with (like those at the local gym or coffeehouse). And this happened automatically, even if I was not actively socializing (empaths/indigos can connect with a group without having direct contact but physical proximity helps a lot so I think this will work to you). And then he could do his thing, and I could do my thing during the day, and when he came home, we’d reconnect.

My final example deals with a friend, whom I have known for decades (our friendship started in kindergarten).

She is having a rough time right now and is taking it out on me a bit. I feel it psychically and lately, I’ve felt it overtly. She is my friend and I will always love her, but I do not find her behavior towards me acceptable right now. As of last month, we are not interacting in the physical plane any longer. While this saddens me, and I can sense this saddens her, I feel that it is ok and that whatever is going on with her she has to deal with. I cannot protect her from the emotional stuff she is sorting out and clearing her energy not only won’t help, but it is important for her to process what she needs to process without interference, even if it hurts right now.

So I feel that the most supportive thing I can do is to psychically send her love and tell her she is supported and when I feel hostility coming from her directed at me, I bubble both of us and send away her energy from my field.

So when your guy is down, perhaps you have to just let him be where he is. Give him space to be down and still love him and support him, but don’t carry the energy for him (bubble yourself).

I hope this helps. I know my answer has many facets to it, and that is because I wasn’t sure what would work. There are lots of techniques, and even though you explained the dynamics, it really depends.

If someone is down because their team lost the superbowl or didn’t get a promotion, that’s a case where when you shift focus or if you help the individual shift focus to something more positive (that’s where the Positive Aspects List comes in), a lot of positive stuff can happen.

But if someone is down because there was a death in the family, that takes a lot of emotional sorting by the individual. No amount of bubbling or clearing energy will help and that’s not an outside person’s responsibility, anyway.

If you have any questions about my response or if anything is unclear, please let me know.

And congratulations on meeting up with your first love. That’s so cool. I wish you great love and happiness!

~ Peace ~

Indigo Leslie

Thank you for commenting and I wish you great joy and success with your music career.

~ Peace ~

Indigo Leslie

So I really can’t answer that question and I would love to figure that out, too.

If you can really be sure that you are grounded and energetically clear at the time of purchase, then I would go for it, but i find that there is too much static in the air to really be sure.

If there are moments when I HAVE TO make a big purchase or expenditure during merc. retro (due to a deadline or whatever) I focus on clearing the planetary energy and grounding my energy and I go ahead with the purchase or signing of a document or anything else one typically avoids during Merc. Retro.

But if I have a choice, I still try to wait until the retrograde period is over.

What’s nice about clearing the planetary energy during merc. retro is that the day-to-day B.S. is generally avoided. I like that a lot!

Thanks for commenting! Hope that helps… If not, let me know and I will try to clarify…

Peace
~Indigo Leslie~

I had a guy like that a while ago. It’s interesting because I could feel when he was thinking about me, both casually and sexually. And it was really difficult to pull myself away energetically.

Even worse, we were both massage therapists at the spa, so once I had cleared him energetically, I would run into him and the cycle would start again.

I would say that first get him out of your sphere physically. With the guy I described above, I eventually left the spa. In a way, I considered it the universe sending me a message to get out of there because it wasn’t working for me on a lot of different levels. He was just one of those levels.

Second is every time you think about him or notice he is thinking of you, bubble him and bubble yourself.

If you feel him fantasizing about you and the bubble doesn’t work, you can mentally say something like “I command __________ (his name) out of my field. All energy of __________ I return to ____________ with love and light. You are not allowed in my field and I command you to leave.”

Some energies are really persistent. The next thing I do is visualize something that is the antithesis of sexiness to him. Do you know his mom? Visualize her. He will feel her energy and, unless he sexualizes her, he will feel turned off by thinking about you that way. Be sure to bubble her, because you don’t want to send that energy her way. But you can also think about things like baseball and taxes and that has seemed to help me get unwanted sexual energy away from me in the past. I know it sounds a bit silly, but if it works…

Try a cutting ceremony also. This cuts the unhealthy ties to an individual, object or place. Be sure to do the part about sending forgiveness and light, because another reason people keep coming back is that the energy is tied together, often in a negative way, and the person is returning in order to give you the opportunity to “unhook”.
Check out this webpage: http://www.powerattunements.com/article110.html

Finally, when you notice your attention going to him, mentally send him love and light and then refocus on what you want. I like mentally saying, “I forgive you and god bless you” (which is a phrase I acquired from Brian Tracy) and then I focus on the characteristics I want in my next lover/boyfriend. If you can, write those characteristics down. And write the characteristics that you liked in the guy you are trying to get away from… It won’t make you reconnect with the crappy side of him as much as with his better side or with someone who exemplifies his better characteristics, along with additional characteristics that are more compatible with what you are wanting.

Actually, I really like the Abraham-Hicks exercise of writing “The positive aspects of ________________ are…” and then list them. (the blank can be anything… both something that gives you great joy as well as something that is frustrating you at the moment.)

If you are sensitive to energy, you will actually feel a positive shift between you and whatever you focused on in the Positive Aspects exercise. It’s pretty awesome and powerful!

Hope these tips help! Let me know how they work for you.